Many
people have heard of the love languages but few know what they are or why they
are important.
The
love languages were developed by Dr. Gary Chapman. He is a pastor and marriage counselor with
over 35 years experience. After years of
working with couples who felt like “my spouse doesn’t love me anymore!” he
began to see patterns in their behaviors and responses to why they felt that
way. Those responses all fell into five
categories which he called the Five Love Languages. These love languages became the topic of
conferences he would present at and eventually he wrote a book which has now
sold over 18 million copies.
The
love languages can help you discover how you give and receive love in the most
meaningful way. Below are the five
languages and short descriptions of what they entail (straight from the
official website). If you are interested
in finding out what your love language is, visit the official website at www.5lovelanguages.com.
Quality
Time
In
the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full,
undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but
really being there – with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and
tasks on standby – makes your significant other feel truly special and loved.
Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially
hurtful. Quality time also means sharing quality conversation and quality
activities.
Acts
of Service
Can
vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you
do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service”
person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do
that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell
speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter. Finding ways to serve
speaks volumes to the recipient of these acts.
Receiving Gifts
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous – so would the absence of everyday gestures. Gifts are visual representations of love and are treasured greatly
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous – so would the absence of everyday gestures. Gifts are visual representations of love and are treasured greatly
Physical Touch
This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face – they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive. Physical touch fosters a sense of security and belonging in any relationship.
This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face – they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive. Physical touch fosters a sense of security and belonging in any relationship.
Words of
Affirmation
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important – hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten. Kind, encouraging, and positive words are truly life-giving.
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important – hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten. Kind, encouraging, and positive words are truly life-giving.
Source: www.5lovelanguages.com
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